Choices. Priorities. Both are connected though not similar. The choices that we make, the decisions that we pursue also show us our priorities. As I mention in an earlier post, how we spend our time shows our priorities. And now, here's another way our priorities show: our choices. Quality vs quantity. Easy vs hard. Time vs excellence. Money vs anything.
If you ask anyone to make a choice, some may take the 3rd option: I'd like both. Well, of course you'd like both! Who wouldn't? We'd all like to finish a work on time and be of the best quality. We want more quality things in our lives. The best deal would be for a cheap but excellent product. In a perfect world, we wouldn't have to lie, cheat or steal!
But what defines us, what matters is which choice we take when we can't have both. We live in a fallen world. Often, it's a choice of either 1 or the other. And I believe, that shows what we really value. You can say you'd like to buy a better server but it's too expensive; I say you just value money more than quality. Who doesn't want a better server if it's cheaper? It's a question of whether you're willing to spend for the quality or not? Of course, sometimes we just don't need the quality but if we do and there's no money, well... that just says it all, doesn't it?
If the world was perfect, all suits will be comfortable to wear. Things that make us look better won't be so uncomfortable. Heels make girls look nicer but they're horrible for comfort and walking. Ties and a suit enhances a man's image but it does nothing for his well being. Evening wear will never become everyday wear simply because no one would want to wear it everyday! So when someone dresses up or not, it says a lot. It shows whether you prefer form or function. Whether beauty is more important or being comfortable. Does outward appearance more important than inner peace?
There will always be sacrifices to be made. We can't have it both ways because God never made it that way. That's why following Christ isn't easy. It requires us to make a choice: His way or our way. Yes, He made us to have dreams, to have desires. And those dreams and desires are good! But what we have to choose is whether we want those dreams and desires fulfilled our way or His way. Whether pleasing God is more important or pleasing ourselves.
I've been guilty of choosing my way over His way. I catch myself looking out for myself first before what He wants. But I know, His way is better than my way. His will will lead to something far greater than I can ever imagine. It's a process, but one that is very rewarding in the end. To choose life by chooing Christ.
Sunday, 21 September 2008
Saturday, 20 September 2008
Heart vs Action
In the Western world, there's a de-emphasis on the idea of dressing smart. In fact, one can say that the art of looking great in a suit is a dying art. Many corporations (Google, Pixar & Intel for example) allow employees to wear as they like to work. Some go further by allowing employees to work as they like too! The incurred 'professionalism' is lost with these ideas. A certain level of 'class' is lost with this too. Gone is the smart suit people who take pride in looking professional everywhere they go.
On the other hand, casualness invites a certain level of calmness with it. Without the contraints of tie and shirt, some people actually perform better. In a relaxed environment, some actually thrive. My ex-housemate even once confessed that he can do more work at home than at work! And on another level, being casual invites people to approach you. The suit, while showing a higher class, can also dispel people away. It's rigit, unconforming, static. The t-shirt is casual, friendly, easy to wear. Personally, I hate approaching people in suits because it's all business. A person in jeans/shorts looks more welcoming and I'd rather spend my time with them.
In looking at the difference between the 2 styles, it also symbolically shows the difference between doing something from the heart and doing something because it has to be done. Anyone can feed the homeless but it takes a really caring and loving heart to care for them. Anyone can donate money to a cause but it takes the sacrifice of those who truly champion the cause to run it. You can serve in church all your life, in all the ways and still, have no heart to see God's plan for yourself. When the heart is right, it doesn't matter what is wore on the outside. The job will still get done, and it will be done excellently.
But what if you find yourself having a bad day? Especially a bad day when you have to face customers/strangers? Would you hide behind a false facade? Or will you let your face reflect your soul? Sadly, many in the Asian world still put a higher emphasis on the facade. We can't lose 'face'. Whatever happens within, don't let it be shown to the outsiders. Maintain that 'professionalism'. And sometimes, it's a dilemma for Christians. If we were in a situation where we can't smile, shall we put on a fake smile? We are meant to be salt and light to the world but how is being sad or down in the dumps being salt and light?
This especially becomes important in serving the Lord. We want to bless those around us. But can we when we feel like our hearts are bleeding internally? When you have to usher people in with a smile but you can't find a reason to smile anymore. When you can't see the wood for the trees, can you still disciple others? Do we pull away, not be part of the service? Or do we just power through; putting on a front that's insincere?
We will all face issues where we become human. Where our lives are not sweetness and hunky dory. Where we get angry, confused, hurt, misunderstood. And sometimes yes, we just got to lay our problems aside because we want to serve others. But we also must go back to the problem and work it out. Don't lay aside a personal problem because it's in the way. God has put that problem there because there's something He wants to teach us through it. So we have to work it out. With His grace, we will!
And when we want to serve, God will provide the will to smile and approach people. We just have to trust in His timing and His will be done. He alone provides the power and the love for us to serve well. On our own, we cannot do it. Our iniquities will not allow us to always be pouring out onto others. On our own, we will crash and burn. The good news is, we don't have to do it alone. God is our helper! He will see things through. He is the great deliverer! Nothing He starts will ever stop or finish badly. He is really just that awesome.
God said everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial. That means we are still permitted to show grief, to be sad, to get angry. But we must see whether this benefits us. If it does, then let's learn the lesson quick! If it just brings us down, it's time to get rid of it.
So in God, we can both serve well as well as still be in pain. It is His grace and His power that allows us to do both with a sincere heart.But we must continue to be careful: let's serve the Lord with all our heart, all our mind and all our soul. Let's serve Him through a sincere love for Him and a willingness to see His will be done. Let His glory shine down and Him alone be glorified.
God looks at our hearts; so what we wear really isn't a biig deal. I still don't believe in wearing suits and ties and I think I never will be comfortable with that. But there's a reason and as long as God says so, that's what I do. Amen.
On the other hand, casualness invites a certain level of calmness with it. Without the contraints of tie and shirt, some people actually perform better. In a relaxed environment, some actually thrive. My ex-housemate even once confessed that he can do more work at home than at work! And on another level, being casual invites people to approach you. The suit, while showing a higher class, can also dispel people away. It's rigit, unconforming, static. The t-shirt is casual, friendly, easy to wear. Personally, I hate approaching people in suits because it's all business. A person in jeans/shorts looks more welcoming and I'd rather spend my time with them.
In looking at the difference between the 2 styles, it also symbolically shows the difference between doing something from the heart and doing something because it has to be done. Anyone can feed the homeless but it takes a really caring and loving heart to care for them. Anyone can donate money to a cause but it takes the sacrifice of those who truly champion the cause to run it. You can serve in church all your life, in all the ways and still, have no heart to see God's plan for yourself. When the heart is right, it doesn't matter what is wore on the outside. The job will still get done, and it will be done excellently.
But what if you find yourself having a bad day? Especially a bad day when you have to face customers/strangers? Would you hide behind a false facade? Or will you let your face reflect your soul? Sadly, many in the Asian world still put a higher emphasis on the facade. We can't lose 'face'. Whatever happens within, don't let it be shown to the outsiders. Maintain that 'professionalism'. And sometimes, it's a dilemma for Christians. If we were in a situation where we can't smile, shall we put on a fake smile? We are meant to be salt and light to the world but how is being sad or down in the dumps being salt and light?
This especially becomes important in serving the Lord. We want to bless those around us. But can we when we feel like our hearts are bleeding internally? When you have to usher people in with a smile but you can't find a reason to smile anymore. When you can't see the wood for the trees, can you still disciple others? Do we pull away, not be part of the service? Or do we just power through; putting on a front that's insincere?
We will all face issues where we become human. Where our lives are not sweetness and hunky dory. Where we get angry, confused, hurt, misunderstood. And sometimes yes, we just got to lay our problems aside because we want to serve others. But we also must go back to the problem and work it out. Don't lay aside a personal problem because it's in the way. God has put that problem there because there's something He wants to teach us through it. So we have to work it out. With His grace, we will!
And when we want to serve, God will provide the will to smile and approach people. We just have to trust in His timing and His will be done. He alone provides the power and the love for us to serve well. On our own, we cannot do it. Our iniquities will not allow us to always be pouring out onto others. On our own, we will crash and burn. The good news is, we don't have to do it alone. God is our helper! He will see things through. He is the great deliverer! Nothing He starts will ever stop or finish badly. He is really just that awesome.
God said everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial. That means we are still permitted to show grief, to be sad, to get angry. But we must see whether this benefits us. If it does, then let's learn the lesson quick! If it just brings us down, it's time to get rid of it.
So in God, we can both serve well as well as still be in pain. It is His grace and His power that allows us to do both with a sincere heart.But we must continue to be careful: let's serve the Lord with all our heart, all our mind and all our soul. Let's serve Him through a sincere love for Him and a willingness to see His will be done. Let His glory shine down and Him alone be glorified.
God looks at our hearts; so what we wear really isn't a biig deal. I still don't believe in wearing suits and ties and I think I never will be comfortable with that. But there's a reason and as long as God says so, that's what I do. Amen.
Wednesday, 10 September 2008
Paranoid or Apathetic?
Television shows are showing the wrong kind of image. That's true. Television influences the perception of people. Yes, it's true. But boys will be boys. They'll pick up guns and play at war. They get muddy. They take on heights that scare mothers half to death. But they may also like to play cooking. After all, how else are good chefs made?
So at the end of the day, boys tend to be a bit rough. And people have watched shows that seem bad but turn out alright. When JK Rowling's books came out, there were a lot of protest but really, how much of it is relevant? While everything has an effect on others, people still will reject what is lousy. So when we protest, are we really doing the right thing? Have we become too paranoid over what the enemy will use? Or have we become so apathetic, we don't realize when the enemy is at the door?
I hate the paranoia that sometimes surrounds us. Many are prone to make a mountain out of a molehill. Some shows have negative protrayals, I agree. But the viewers of that show should be able to take what is right and what isn't. Stopping kids from watching things blow up on cartoons won't exactly make them a better person. Likewise allowing them all the freedom they want isn't beneficial. There must be a certain amount of letting go and pulling back. The ultimate example is Man's free will. God gave us free will so that we can make our own decisions; whether the things we watch are good to learn from or bad that we should avoid. For example, some people can drink because they control their alcohol intake. Whereas some should avoid it entirely because it's going to lead them to destruction. "Everything is permissible"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible"—but not everything is constructive. -1 Corinthians 10:23
Speaking of perceptions, I really hate first impressions. I hate the fact that you are judged by simply what is on the outward appearance. Yes, what's inside you will show on the outside. But what's on the outside may be incorrectly judged with the inside. If the outside truly reflected what exactly was on the inside, why does it say that God judges people by what's on the inside?
That's because outward appearances can be wrong! In fact, I'd go on and say it could be very wrong. Just because someone is wearing casual all the time doesn't mean he isn't a model professional. The girl who like to wear black doesn't necessarily have a bleak outlook on life. Wearing a suit and going to church every week doesn't mean you're holy and a good person. In fact, you could be the leader of a church and still be completely rotten!
I know that half the time, the outside judgement may be right. But I'm not willing to take that risk. Nor do I like it. A person is still a person with a soul. Whatever their outlook, whatever their personality, whatever their thinking, there's always something else there. If we only take the time to see past the insignificant outsides, we may find the gold inside. I pity not the person being judged, but the person judging. He/she misses out on a great opportunity; maybe even the opportunity of a lifetime. And those who try to put on an appearance; you also have my pity. No matter what the reason, no matter what the situation; I never believe in looking like 1 thing on the outside and being something different on the inside.
So at the end of the day, boys tend to be a bit rough. And people have watched shows that seem bad but turn out alright. When JK Rowling's books came out, there were a lot of protest but really, how much of it is relevant? While everything has an effect on others, people still will reject what is lousy. So when we protest, are we really doing the right thing? Have we become too paranoid over what the enemy will use? Or have we become so apathetic, we don't realize when the enemy is at the door?
I hate the paranoia that sometimes surrounds us. Many are prone to make a mountain out of a molehill. Some shows have negative protrayals, I agree. But the viewers of that show should be able to take what is right and what isn't. Stopping kids from watching things blow up on cartoons won't exactly make them a better person. Likewise allowing them all the freedom they want isn't beneficial. There must be a certain amount of letting go and pulling back. The ultimate example is Man's free will. God gave us free will so that we can make our own decisions; whether the things we watch are good to learn from or bad that we should avoid. For example, some people can drink because they control their alcohol intake. Whereas some should avoid it entirely because it's going to lead them to destruction. "Everything is permissible"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible"—but not everything is constructive. -1 Corinthians 10:23
Speaking of perceptions, I really hate first impressions. I hate the fact that you are judged by simply what is on the outward appearance. Yes, what's inside you will show on the outside. But what's on the outside may be incorrectly judged with the inside. If the outside truly reflected what exactly was on the inside, why does it say that God judges people by what's on the inside?
That's because outward appearances can be wrong! In fact, I'd go on and say it could be very wrong. Just because someone is wearing casual all the time doesn't mean he isn't a model professional. The girl who like to wear black doesn't necessarily have a bleak outlook on life. Wearing a suit and going to church every week doesn't mean you're holy and a good person. In fact, you could be the leader of a church and still be completely rotten!
I know that half the time, the outside judgement may be right. But I'm not willing to take that risk. Nor do I like it. A person is still a person with a soul. Whatever their outlook, whatever their personality, whatever their thinking, there's always something else there. If we only take the time to see past the insignificant outsides, we may find the gold inside. I pity not the person being judged, but the person judging. He/she misses out on a great opportunity; maybe even the opportunity of a lifetime. And those who try to put on an appearance; you also have my pity. No matter what the reason, no matter what the situation; I never believe in looking like 1 thing on the outside and being something different on the inside.
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